Let’s stop pretending people change because they “want to grow.”

No, they don’t. Most people don’t change until the pain hits a level they can’t ignore.

There’s a pain point… and then there’s a death point.

A pain point is annoying. It’s uncomfortable. It’s that little voice saying, “You should probably fix this.” And what do most people do?

They slap a Band-Aid on it and keep limping through life.

A death point is different.

That’s when the pain gets so loud, so sharp, so exhausting, you realize:

If I don’t change… this thing is going to own me.

That’s the moment people finally move.

Not when it stings.

When it suffocates.

The truth?

You don’t need to wait for the death point. You don’t need to let the pain get unbearable. You can make the change when the pain is still whispering instead of screaming.

But most folks won’t.

Most folks wait until the house is on fire before they grab a hose.

Leaders, winners, and people who actually get somewhere in life?

They act at the pain point.

Leaders, who have they eyes open and are paying attention often see the pain coming and catch it before it catches them.

Smart leaders never have to deal with the “death point.” That’s all I’m gonna say.